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Language determines our reality. Positively focused language enables us to live an empowering life. We can choose to use empowering language all the time.

Our language determines our reality. If you think in terms of a problem then to some extent you are wiring your brain to be problem focussed. The way many people think about problems is that they are difficult to resolve. If we think of things in terms of being insolvable, to what extent are we wiring our brain to be solutions focussed? The simple answer is that with this mindset we are not being solutions focused. The focus, for many, becomes one of rehearsing the problem and rehearsing the problem and rehearsing the problem — and the problem with this is that it clutters our intelligence super-highway, and our mind with irrelevancies and problems, rather than focusing on solutions.

A better way, I believe, of looking at issues is to `state’ the problem; (I prefer the word issue or challenge) and `rehearse’ the solution, `rehearse’ the solution, `rehearse’ the solution and `rehearse’ the solution. This enables us to put all of our attention on focusing on finding a solution. We are training our mind on being solutions focussed. Rehearse the solution, rehearse the solution.

Ask yourself what else can I do here to get the result I want. What else can I do? What else can I do? Keep posing the question until you come up with at least five choices. You want to create for yourself the power of choice. Defining choices for yourself means that you are taking back control of your life. Define your choices.

Have an `I can’, rather than an `I can’t attitude. An `I can’ approach sends massive signals to your brain that you can and your efforts then will go into how you can make the possibility a reality. Take a few moments to notice for yourself how you feel when you are being positive and upbeat and you are creating the conditions for your endeavours to turn out right. Notice how you feel when you sit down and work out how you can achieve what you want to achieve. Compare that feeling and type of thought processes to an `I can’t’ approach. I do not know about for you. For me, though, when I used to indulge in this form of thought process and behaviour it used to make me feel down, lethargic, stuck, idea-less. After attending a number of training programmes, I realised what I needed and what worked for me was adopting a `yes’ set. Yes I can, yes I will, and yes I am. This attitude of mind helped to motivate me tremendously.

No longer do I sit down and use the language of defeat. The `I can’t’ language and all its variations, really is the language of defeat. It is the language that gets us no where, except further and further down into defeatism.

Take a simple word like ‘try’ the amount of times that this is used. There ought to be a law against it! Think about it. What does the word `try’ actually mean? Basically, it means to make an attempt. Now, on the face of it that seems pretty laudable and so it is. In the act of trying though, we are not actually doing. For example, we can learn to drive a car. We cannot try to learn to drive a car, because in this instance we are not actually learning. Try seems to be a word that is used when people are not able or prepared to make a commitment to something and that may be true. Let’s not fool ourselves otherwise.

There is no point, for example, saying I’ll try to do a parachute jump. Either you will do it or you won’t. If you agree to do it, then you will do all the preparation required to undertake the jump. If you say you will try to give a presentation that is when you will fall on your face for sure. If, however, you show definiteness of purpose then you will do all the preparation, research and practice you will likely give a successful presentation.

What other debilitating language can you come up with? Maybe, possibly, perhaps, struggle. The list is endless. We need to drop our debilitating language before it debilitates our life. These are examples and the point is, to come back to where we started, language does in fact create our reality.

FIVE POWER PRINCIPLES FOR LANGUAGE

1. Thoughts are things that create who we are.

2. Results are a culmination of our thoughts, words and deeds.

3. Language can empower or disempower. Make a choice to use empowering language

4. Change your language, change your mind.

5. Listen closely to how language is used — keep guard over the use of negative language and cut it out as far as possible.

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I’ve always been intrigued by the sheer power of language. Usually, the power of words lies in their context, and in the way they’re strung together to communicate a complex concept in a way that disposes the listener to accept or reject it. Certain words, however, have their own intrinsic power, irrespective of context. I think of those as magic words. The “F” word is a magic word because of its peculiar power to shock and offend and to stop a conversation dead in its tracks. But the power of the “F” word pales in comparison to the power of the “N” word.

The “N” word may be the most powerful word in the English language, in terms of pure visceral impact and the ability to elicit shock, anger, betrayal, humiliation, hatred, and even violence. Can you think of any other two syllables stuck together that could incite a riot? The “N” word is not just a word; it’s a weapon. It’s an incredibly ugly word because it objectifies the person at whom it’s leveled, stripping them of their individuality and casting them as an insignificant inferior.

The word “Racist” is another of those amazingly powerful words, similar to the “N” word in its capacity to evoke an emotional response. Arguably, the “R” word is even uglier than the “N” word, because what it says about the person at whom it’s leveled is uglier. It implies that they are blind to the individuality of others and are motivated by ignorant hate.

One may say the “N” word is worse because it’s based on race, a characteristic with which one is born, about which one has no choice. Presumably, if one is a racist, it’s by their own volition. But what’s more insidious about calling someone a racist is that, just because one is labeled that, doesn’t mean it’s true. Yet how does one prove what one is not? Once tarred with the brush of racism, either by accusation or implication, one cannot easily defend oneself without sounding like one is begging the question.

Spurious imputations of racism are increasingly in vogue these days among a certain set of people. It’s commonly used to shut down discussion without having to come up with a rational response, to vilify someone with whom one disagrees, and to discredit whatever it is they have to say. Unlike the “N” word, which is so politically incorrect that one can’t even spell it out without invoking imprecations of racism, the word “racist” is commonly used by those who see themselves as infallibly politically correct.

It’s ironic that, though Senator Obama sells himself as the “post-racial” candidate who will heal the racial divide in our nation, his campaign has become the focal point for racial divisiveness. Perhaps more ironic is that the most aggressive perpetrators of that racial divisiveness are not his opponents, but his supporters. While Obama himself has tiptoed around direct accusations of racism, many of his supporters are quick to fling the epithet at anyone and everyone who doesn’t support their candidate, or who disagrees with them on any number of hot button issues.

I know how it feels to be branded with the scarlet “R” for daring to speak about race without genuflecting before the altar of political correctness. But I’m not intimidated by magic words. However, I know many people who are hesitant to express legitimate opinions about subjects such as affirmative action or welfare because they don’t want to be put in the position of having to defend themselves against the inevitable intimations of racism. How are we ever going to “heal the racial divide” if we can’t talk openly and honestly about any issues that happen to touch on race? Liberals like to spout “Speak truth to power,” but they won’t abide people who speak truth to political correctness.

I’ll continue to speak my mind, and to support my opinions with logic and facts. Anybody who can refute my positions with logic and facts is welcome to convince me I’m wrong. I’ve been wrong before, and I’ll be wrong again, but I won’t shut up because I’m afraid of what somebody might call me, no matter how ugly it is.

About the Author

NotYourDaddy is a conservative libertarian who believes in free will and the free market. NYD thinks the role of the government is to protect the rights and liberties of its citizens. Stop there.

NYD’s attitude toward ever-expanding government can best be summed up by snarling “Get your hand out of my pocket and leave me alone!”

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