The Astonishing Truth About The Power of Language

Language determines our reality. Positively focused language enables us to live an empowering life. We can choose to use empowering language all the time.

Our language determines our reality. If you think in terms of a problem then to some extent you are wiring your brain to be problem focussed. The way many people think about problems is that they are difficult to resolve. If we think of things in terms of being insolvable, to what extent are we wiring our brain to be solutions focussed? The simple answer is that with this mindset we are not being solutions focused. The focus, for many, becomes one of rehearsing the problem and rehearsing the problem and rehearsing the problem — and the problem with this is that it clutters our intelligence super-highway, and our mind with irrelevancies and problems, rather than focusing on solutions.

A better way, I believe, of looking at issues is to `state’ the problem; (I prefer the word issue or challenge) and `rehearse’ the solution, `rehearse’ the solution, `rehearse’ the solution and `rehearse’ the solution. This enables us to put all of our attention on focusing on finding a solution. We are training our mind on being solutions focussed. Rehearse the solution, rehearse the solution.

Ask yourself what else can I do here to get the result I want. What else can I do? What else can I do? Keep posing the question until you come up with at least five choices. You want to create for yourself the power of choice. Defining choices for yourself means that you are taking back control of your life. Define your choices.

Have an `I can’, rather than an `I can’t attitude. An `I can’ approach sends massive signals to your brain that you can and your efforts then will go into how you can make the possibility a reality. Take a few moments to notice for yourself how you feel when you are being positive and upbeat and you are creating the conditions for your endeavours to turn out right. Notice how you feel when you sit down and work out how you can achieve what you want to achieve. Compare that feeling and type of thought processes to an `I can’t’ approach. I do not know about for you. For me, though, when I used to indulge in this form of thought process and behaviour it used to make me feel down, lethargic, stuck, idea-less. After attending a number of training programmes, I realised what I needed and what worked for me was adopting a `yes’ set. Yes I can, yes I will, and yes I am. This attitude of mind helped to motivate me tremendously.

No longer do I sit down and use the language of defeat. The `I can’t’ language and all its variations, really is the language of defeat. It is the language that gets us no where, except further and further down into defeatism.

Take a simple word like ‘try’ the amount of times that this is used. There ought to be a law against it! Think about it. What does the word `try’ actually mean? Basically, it means to make an attempt. Now, on the face of it that seems pretty laudable and so it is. In the act of trying though, we are not actually doing. For example, we can learn to drive a car. We cannot try to learn to drive a car, because in this instance we are not actually learning. Try seems to be a word that is used when people are not able or prepared to make a commitment to something and that may be true. Let’s not fool ourselves otherwise.

There is no point, for example, saying I’ll try to do a parachute jump. Either you will do it or you won’t. If you agree to do it, then you will do all the preparation required to undertake the jump. If you say you will try to give a presentation that is when you will fall on your face for sure. If, however, you show definiteness of purpose then you will do all the preparation, research and practice you will likely give a successful presentation.

What other debilitating language can you come up with? Maybe, possibly, perhaps, struggle. The list is endless. We need to drop our debilitating language before it debilitates our life. These are examples and the point is, to come back to where we started, language does in fact create our reality.


1. Thoughts are things that create who we are.

2. Results are a culmination of our thoughts, words and deeds.

3. Language can empower or disempower. Make a choice to use empowering language

4. Change your language, change your mind.

5. Listen closely to how language is used — keep guard over the use of negative language and cut it out as far as possible.

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